Just a few thoughts. Hope something I said sheds some light. Is this still revelant? Ponchi Xper 2. Perhaps your problem is not your interests, but how you potray yourself to people, lacking in confidence, being ashamed of your interests, etc.. I have a wide palette of friends jocks, models, nerds, metal heads, etc.. He plays a substancial amount of starcraft and W.
W, he is very academic, doesn't work on his appearance, is not athletic I was very close to beating him in an arm-wrestle, haha , and he is not physically, exceptionally attractive. His appeal to me is his intelligence, and how confident he is in it. He is very opinionated, and slightly egotistical and he is always ready to have a big intellectual discussion and assert his opinions.
Even when he talks about the "nerdy" interests of his Starcraft , he is very confident, open, and not self-concious discussing them, and to me, that level of confidence, in himself, is very sexy.
However, we do share very similar interests. Without being too conceited, I am also an academic not that academia always equates to inteligence , assertive, and so I am always up for intellectual discussions. That's why, I find my nerdy friends much more attractive than the "jocks", even if they are more conventionally, aesthetically appealing.
A man who is able to provoke thought, and even sometimes make me feel intellectualy inferior, intrigue and fascinate me. So maybe you: 1 Have to be a little more confident in your "nerdy-ness" and your interests 2 Pick the right girls! Hope that helps ;. AdamBH 59 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Xper 6. Nerds are socially awkward and often smell. And they have no tact and spend all their time doing things that most people find deathly boring, and even when they are not doing it, they never stop talking about it and although they have a good intention, they don't have the ability to enough consider others to make a good boyfriend.
But that means I'm not even a nerd! You are probably not a nerd, there are far fewer nerds than people who call themselves nerdy. So why are you still classed as nerdy and have no success? Because people who are a little nerdy are often immediately shoved in the nerd category and people will make assumptions about you that you are no good, even if you are in fact very good.
SO what you have to do, is show that you have other sides to you as well, and whatever nerd you do have inside you, use it to your advantage - just make sure you don't have any of the negative social characteristics I described. You probably don't have many of them anyway! Sign Up Now! Sort Girls First Guys First. Darkfairie17 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Use your nerdyness to your advantage! Intelligence is sexy! I know that it doesn't seem like it, but there are women out there who are just as smart as you who will appreciate you. Maybe try different avenues of meeting people. Try online dating, try having friends set you up, try speed dating.
Whatever it takes to get yourself out there. The more you do this, the better you become at finding out what works for you. I personally like a nerdier guy. Weird is good, I am not normal so I also need someone who can understand me as well. And I agree, it isn't easy. But you have to keep trying.
Just because a guy knows something about computers, doesn't mean teh girl is going to run away. Personally, having a handy computer guy around is a handy thing. So you have that to your advantage. Personally I've always felt kind of insecure around guys like that. As long as the guy doesn't parade how proud he is of being a nerd or starts insulting ''cool'' guys I feel better about him.
I like to think I'm a very smart young woman I get perfect grades in my school, I'm a senior and when I see someone who is so much smarter than me that I feel stupid and can't really understand what he's saying I just tend to back off Guess I made it more about me then give you an opinion but it's how I feel, maybe I'm not the only one.
I'm just gonna stop here XD. You, my friend, are going after the wrong girls. And let's face it, the old adage "don't beat up the geeks because one day they'll be your bosses" is pretty true. As soon as women mature enough, they realize that the dumb footballer they're dating isn't going anywhere and they reevaluate their preferences. Granted, some never mature, but what can you do Trust me, you'll be fine. In some cases girls won't admit they like geeky guys because of peer pressure, but they'll be over it soon enough.
Live Long and Prosper ;. I am quite nerdy myself although I may not look like it lol. One thing that I've noticed is that people tend to be intimidated by people that are noticably of high intelligence.
Other people may seem to not be accepting of someone else's interest. There are girls that like all styles of guy. Maybe you're targeting the wrong ones. JeanetteG Xper 5. I can't see any of that really turning a girl off.
Even if you don't try to be "sexy" you need to present an attractive image. Sexual attraction is necessary for ANY relationship and dating, and you've got to look decent for it to exist. Maybe try to see what you have in common with a girl before going on about your interests?
While suave bad boys tend to be self-absorbed, geeks are instead very passionate about what they do, and they prioritize all the things in life that should be prioritized — which makes them incredibly successful and ambitious. Having interesting passions and unique hobbies — even geeky ones — makes you super attractive.
I dated a guy who looked incredibly dorky in his golf outfits, but I still loved seeing him get ready for golf. Bright polo shirts, plaid pants, and visors? But women want men who play sports that demand creativity and skill, not just body checks and sprinting.
They have their life in order. A man who can carry an intellectual conversation will always stand out, and spending time with him will be more desirable than with a man who has poor conversational skills. Relationship expert, psychologist and Ph. Ambitious women who are smart and driven are certainly looking for a man with the same qualities.
At the end of the day, women want to be with someone who engages them with their conversation skills, not just someone who can flirt or has a hot body.
I feel like I'm wasting my time with most girls, because I'm too nerdy for them. I've actually had a number of girls say "ugh" when I tell them what I do.
Maybe this is a silly question, but what kind of girls dig guys who are into computers, math, science and that kind of stuff? Where do you find them? Share Facebook. Do girls like nerdy guys like me? Add Opinion. CuddlyCarla opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Xper 6. You are right, it is a silly question. Women, like men, are snowflakes. No two are alike. What works for one doesn't for another, etc.
So, you have as much of a chance as anyone. From my experience, it isn't what hobbies a guy has or what subjects interest him so much as what kind of a person he is, how he treats a woman, and his social and emotional capacity that makes a far bigger difference.
People who are often described as 'nerds' are sometimes discounted not because of their hobbies or interests but because some of them have inferiority complexes and perhaps were picked on as children and never got over it so they have these 'she won't like so I won't even try' or 'I can't stand up for myself' victim complexes that aren't attractive while some carry over the social difficulties they had as young people instead of realizing they are now empowered adults who have choices and can be the person they want to be.
Women generally have less judgment on "nerdy" hobbies, but a man who can't successfully interact with others socially or who can't stand up for himself or his woman is going to have a far harder time finding a girl. Is this still revelant? JanJan Xper 7. You've probably heard this before, but girls who get scared off because of your job are not worth your time.
People who work in the fields you mentioned are often intelligent, passionate, hard-working, and are able to make decisions about their life. What's not to love? Frankly, hearing a guy speak passionately about his job, whatever it may be, shows that he is able to FEEL passion in the first place. And passion is very attractive. Girls who are uninterested in "nerdy guys" are often shallow or are unwilling to spend time in getting to know you.
Enough said. Have fun trying to have a decent conversation with these girls. Lots of girls like the topics you mentioned as well, in fact. I'm a "nerd" myself. If you want to meet people who are interested in the topics you mentioned, go to places FOR people like that. Conventions, work, clubs, groups, websites You name it. Having a connection with someone who will take the time to understand you is way better than a shallow girl who could care less.
Dude: you need to get the courage to go up to those pretty girls! As you already know, I am extremely fond of nerds, and well, I don't know if you think I'm half way near attractive to the girls you typically are attracted to, but if I am, my opinion should honestly show you that most girls really want a guy with substance So next time you see a girl you're interested in, promise me you will appraoch her. I can almost guarentee you that you won't regret it, however it turns out.
Good luck on your future endeavors! Show All Show Less. RandomPeople24 Xper 4. Hate to say it but I have a friend who's a girl and she's totally hot. Maybe you should change the topic and talk about work and studies less and more about fun and interesting subjects.
And you should really ask her questions rather than talking about yourself. Myth Xper 6. I agree it's hard to find a good woman who can appreciate the geek side. I recently found a website that caters specifically to matching geek gals with geek guys. Sign Up Now! Sort Girls First Guys First. I studied a bit of medicine, so I like science, and don't know a bit of computers, though I'd really like to learn.
Idk, I'm attracted to introverted, quiet men that live in their own world at times :D My friends think nerdy boys are cute as well Though we do party and go to concerts, it's easier to befriend us at a library, museum, art gallery, park, bar well I do horseback riding so I don't think the problem is where you find us, but who can you identify us. We usually my friends and I don't open up so easily, don't give our infos fast, wouldn't do too crazy things, aren't attention seekers, and our clothing isn't as trashy.
Good luck , I hope this helps oh, and although you study a lot, remember to workout because being in shape is very important :D.
I have never heard a girl being turned off because of what someone does, so that is interesting. When getting to know a girl try to let her get to know you and not just what you do. Try not to come off super-technical, as there are guys that can talk a woman's head off about technical computer stuff, so hopefully you are not doing anything like that. If girls are being turned off by what you do - that is immature, and you definitely need to look somewhere else.
If you are in school, try joining a club. If not in school, maybe considering taking some extra courses. Libraries are another great source. Also try volunteering and meeting girls through those means. Honestly, I don't think that is what makes somebody a nerd as long as you don't dress like the stereotypical nerd. Being a nerd is when you are what you said, plus having no life, when everything you do, like, and talk about revolves that.
And more or less being a little pathetic. That is what I think a nerd is. But to answer your question, smart girls who want smart successful guys. I've seen guys who were really into computers and were really smart, liked science, and all that you mentioned and I thought they were very hot.
And wanted a guy who would talk about trivial, petty things rather than carry on an intelligent conversation. Didn't you just see the question some girl asked? She said, "Where are all the nerdy guys? I personally like manly men. I don't care if they are nerdy, macho, super athletic or anything else. Nerdy guys can be very manly. I have a crush on Reed from the show Criminal Minds.
He is really attractive Working out and building muscle will automatically make you appear more manly to women. It isn't even about "changing yourself. If you really want to find these women, why not try internet dating sites? Otherwise, you will find these women anywhere. Many women may turn their nose up at a "nerdy" guy, but there are many other women who will see you as very attractive for being you.
Good luck! I hope you find a woman who can really appreciate you for you :. Especially if the girl is nerdy herself. Dont' give up, man, I have the same problem with guys. I am an attractive women but find it really hard to find guys to date because they are intimidated by my degree and my intellect. If you want to find a gal that is as smart and into science as you, I suggest joining a site like Chemistry.
If she is running away from you.. DishLady opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Yes, plenty of girls like "nerdy" guys. FYI, you matriculate to "intellectual" after SM year college Ever herd of Clark Kent?
Kissably nerdy, lol. Smart girls like smart guys. Places of education schools, libraries, book stores , the park, golf course, places where you probably already hang out I'm pretty much attracted to only nerds.
Something about a guy who knows his way around computers Hazel63 Xper 6. They are the sweetest, funniest ones out there! If you see a cute girl working on a math assignment or trying to figure out something that you have knowledge of, help her out. Your skills will impress her! Aly88 Xper 5. If that's your definition of nerd, I love nerd guys xD I love math and science myself.. Just go to some colleges, meet girls who are studying those kind of things too..
I hate those shallow conversations that many persons have..
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